<![CDATA[MENSDATINGSANDIEGO.COM - blog]]>Sat, 13 May 2023 05:31:41 -0700Weebly<![CDATA[What to anticipate in terms of dating in 2023?]]>Wed, 08 Mar 2023 11:11:42 GMThttp://mensdatingsandiego.com/blog/what-to-anticipate-in-terms-of-dating-in-2023What Dating Trends to Expect in 2023. A lot of the single men out there may be wondering if dating will return to its original shape in 2023.
Naturally, the answer is no, it isn't. Since we live in a post-covid era, individuals may not be as worried about the virus, but dating has changed drastically. We have had to negotiate this new climate in our dealings with my clients over the last couple of years, and I want to let you in on what to anticipate this year.
Right now, there are a lot of single women.

The number of users on dating apps who claim to have recently gone through a breakup or divorce has sharply increased. While the epidemic may have inspired some individuals to find love and start families, it also assisted many others in realizing they were not with the proper person. This is good news for you since it shows that there are lots of attractive females out there seeking the perfect man; all you need to do is find out how to contact her.

But keep in mind the state of the economy right now. Owing to inflation, people are referring to it as "infla-dating" and choose to go on unorthodox dates rather than the conventional nice dinner dates.
​To be very honest, I have always counseled my guys to consider unusual options when arranging their first dates. Is it really so simple for you two to sit through a pricey dinner on your first date, especially if one of you begins to lose interest after a short while? It's a bad idea to place too much pressure on the first date.
I'm in favor of stress-free pursuits like enjoying Boba dates, taking in the sunset, savoring ice cream, wandering down the beach, going on a picnic, or visiting a coffee shop. That gives you the chance to assess whether the two of you really click right away. You and your partner can always eat dinner later, but not straight away, if everything goes smoothly and you get along.
You also need to be conscious of the fact that women are getting choosier in today's dating landscape. With more alternatives thanks to social media, women are battling for the top 10% of men.
Do you know what these people have? a sense of humor. It's no longer only about having financial stability because so many men do. Becoming a complete guy is the objective. having the money and a great career, and being able to attract ladies. being an excellent storyteller, making women laugh, and surprising them! Nowadays, women have certain preferences for their ideal spouses.
Others do, while some don't think it's natural or charismatic. They are the smart guys who frustrate the crap out of the woman they are dating by having meaningless platonic conversations.
Constructive personality development is possible. If you want to be able to attract ladies and discover the woman of your dreams, your charisma may certainly improve.
As a Men's Dating Coach, I like helping my clients with these aspects of their lives. If you think you might be interested, get in touch with me so we can make this your best year yet!
<![CDATA[3 Keys to a Successful Relationship]]>Wed, 08 Feb 2023 16:42:38 GMThttp://mensdatingsandiego.com/blog/3-keys-to-a-successful-relationshipI talk a lot about how to get from being single to a relationship, but today I wanted to dig in a little deeper into how to actually be successful in a relationship. That is the ultimate goal, isn’t it? I don’t want my clients getting into a relationship only to have a hard time making it a good one.

I just got married in November after 5 years with my wife, and I wanted to share a little about what I think makes our relationship a success, that goes for everyone.
Number one is of course, a shared love and trust. Do you two have a deep, meaningful and fulfilling connection? If that is missing, there really may not be much more to do or share in the relationship. This person should be your best friend and lover! That is the basic necessity for a loving relationship. I look to the advice of the greats like John Gottman, who along with his wife, is a psychologist whose research is at the forefront of couples therapy. 
His research has given his team the ability to predict if a couple is headed for divorce within 94% accuracy. He outlines the four horsemen that will lead to the downfall of a relationship:
  1. Criticism (attacking the core of their character)
  2. Contempt (actually being mean and assuming a morally superior position)
  3. Defensiveness (feeling wrongly accused and playing the victim)
  4. Stonewalling (completely withdrawing when conflict arises)

The second key to a successful relationship is sharing the same values, goals and outlook on life. No matter what happens in life, If the both of you are on the same page on these things, you can make it through anything. What do I mean by this? I mean wanting the same things and reaching the same destination in life, not necessarily sharing all the same hobbies and interests (although this is helpful of course). Do you both see your life the same in 20 years? Do you both want kids? Do you both have a desire for a better future? Does your partner support your goals? Do you share a similar philosophy on life or religion? Do your moral codes match up?

In other words, with all that life throws at you, can you make it through with that strong foundation you guys share?

Number three is continually putting work into the relationship. Look at love like a garden that needs continuous watering and sunlight to survive. You wouldn’t just stop watering your plants if you wanted them to grow would you? It takes a great deal of respect, humility and generosity to maintain a beautiful relationship. That doesn’t mean it has to be perfect, but if both of you are in a state of giving to one another, you both will feel like your cups are full.

After finding my soulmate in this life, my hope is to help as many people as I can find theirs, because I know the joy it brings to have a loving and supportive partner. This is my passion in life!

If you are interested in working with me as your Mens dating coach, don’t hesitate! Message me here. Love is out there waiting for you!
<![CDATA[How to Get a Girlfriend Without Dating Apps]]>Sat, 22 Jan 2022 06:32:02 GMThttp://mensdatingsandiego.com/blog/how-to-get-a-girlfriend-without-dating-appsGetting a girlfriend without using dating apps is a lot easier than you think. 
But that being said, it will be a bit uncomfortable because it will mean that you actually have to talk to women.
Yes, I said it - talk to women. 
Be social, get out of your comfort zone, make small gestures, smile and build fun, playful conversations with people.
And no, I do not mean in virtual reality or in video games, I mean in real life. 
Now you're probably thinking, ok where am I going to meet women in real life? I work 9-5 and I don't have much time.
Well, the best time to go and meet women is in your transition periods.
What is a transition period?
A transition period is a time in between something that you are doing in your daily life.
So, let's imagine you working the usual hours every single week. The average guy goes to a coffee place when he wakes up, maybe walks into Starbucks and then as he opens the door, he sees a very attractive woman in line so he gets behind her as he waits to get his coffee. 
​The man has a choice to either talk to her and form a new relationship with this woman, or for him not to say a word to her and possibly never see her again.
That’s a transition period. After he grabs his good ol 'cup of joe, he then heads to work. Possibly he works from home, or he works at his office or 50/50.
He then has lunch and he's hungry so he decides to get some food at a nearby restaurant that is in a shopping center. Most likely when he arrives, he will see 2-3 women he is attracted to. Maybe the hostess at the restaurant, or a woman who's eating lunch by herself or another woman in line. 
That's another transition period.
He then goes back to work and then depending on his lifestyle activities, he may go to the gym. He goes and works out and then again, he sees a ton of women he's attracted to but he doesn’t talk to them.
As you can see, there's plenty of opportunities for him to talk to women in his everyday life and potentially find a relationship, it’s just that most people think you have to be out at night or on an actual dating app to start something. 
What I just described are transition periods, and each person has their own activities/hobbies that they like to do outside of work, but it is critical that at least you have some hobbies that you can do and see other women in your daily life. (Add fun activities to your daily life that give you exposure to talk to women.)
When you meet a woman in real life, you bypass the whole online dating process of getting matched, then texting, setting up a date and then seeing if you guys click. You can immediately see if you're attracted to her and if y'all have some chemistry, if you like her personality and other characteristics. Online dating does not have these capabilities so easy to read for you at first. 
As you can see, if you get out of your comfort zone and initiate conversations with women during transition periods of everyday life, if you have courage and confidence and understand how to have a playful conversation with women and other people, it will be easy for you to find a girlfriend and connect without using dating apps!
How do I know this? Because a ton of my clients have found their girlfriend in real life. And so have I, and just in case you think that talking to women at the gym is bad, well that's how I met my gorgeous loving girlfriend. If it wasn't for me initiating a conversation at the gym with her, we would have never met. It’s been one of the best decisions that I made in my life.
It’s also possible for you to do the same thing. No matter what has happened to you, there's a great woman out there for you. All you have to do is be ready when the moment arises! Fortune favors the bold, and the bigger the risk the bigger the reward. 
Years later when you guys are married, people will ask how you guys met. You can tell them your love story and how you took a chance. Because of that, you have met your dream partner and your kids will think you're a hero!
So, take the chance! Go for it, talk to the girl that you like!
If you have trouble with the process of talking to women and attracting them, as a Men’s Dating Coach, I would love to help you crush it in your dating and love life. You’re one conversation away from finding the one. 
<![CDATA[How to find a Faithful & Supportive Girlfriend in 2022]]>Thu, 06 Jan 2022 10:26:35 GMThttp://mensdatingsandiego.com/blog/how-to-find-a-faithful-supportive-girlfriend-in-2022​The new year is here! I feel that the older I get, the faster that time goes by! 
I used to always remember hearing my grandparents or older people tell me, “When you get older time is going to fly by faster.”  I never really believed that saying until I started experiencing it for myself!
I feel that it was just the other day that everyone all over the world was panicking about Covid-19, and taking all the toilet paper and other essentials! 
People were going crazy all over the world and that was in 2020! Now we are already in 2022!!!!
It’s crazy because time did fly by and now, we are in another start of the year!
That being said, what are your goals for 2022?
Perhaps the last two years you celebrated new years with no new year’s kiss, no amazing woman to have on your side, and that's totally ok! You were on your mission, chasing excellence and working on your career and other goals.
But there's this myth that I want to debunk. When people say, “John, don’t worry about looking for a partner. The right woman will come along your path one day and you will find her.”

Excuse my language but that's the biggest bull sh** advice that is not true, and someone has to say it. It is a common belief that most men or women think one day their partner is just going to fall from the sky and into their laps, and they will find their perfect girlfriend to marry to live happily ever after.
This type of belief is what keeps most people single for years! Literally YEARS, and for some, for life!!!!!
If you have been single for a while or have been in a toxic relationship, then it is time to build new goals in this area of your life.
Most people plan their goals in all aspects of their life. They have goals in their business, career, health, finances, and other goals that they have as hobbies or activities.
It's great that they have new goals to conquer, to get better and new skill sets to acquire, but one thing I noticed is that they don't have any plans and goals for their dating and love lives, so they don't advance in this area of their life!
We could argue that our love life is one of the most important areas of our life, but people do not have any plans to achieve what they want: To find a meaningful and fulfilling relationship with their dream partner!
This is one of the main reasons why most people go years without finding the right woman, and if they do, they end up settling down in a subpar relationship with a subpar partner who they don't really have much chemistry or passion with.
What's the point of life if professionals and entrepreneurs work so hard on their career or business to have major success in that avenue if they have a mediocre love life.
It just cancels out what they work so hard for!
I'm here to tell you that you can find the best of both worlds. A great career and a great love life! There's nothing that is stopping you from achieving this except for yourself!
If you want this year to change, you're going to have to put a little time and effort into making this dream become a reality. If you want to find your dream partner, you have to have goals in this avenue, plain and simple.
Let's get down to how!
The first step on how to find a girlfriend that is supportive in 2022 is to write down exactly what you want!
What do you want in this area of your life? What is your ideal type of woman and what are her characteristic traits you want her to have? Then, what values do you want her to also have?
It is impossible to be with someone who doesn't share your same values. For example, if later in life you want to start a family and have kids but the woman you're dating doesn't want to have kids.
It will never work out. The values are not the same. Or another example, you are the type of guy who doesn't want to go out to the clubs and bars every weekend but the woman that you're dating can't help herself but wants to get drunk every weekend with you or her single friends. It just won’t work out. Values are completely different.
These are the types of goals you need to have when it comes to knowing what you truly want in your dating and love life. Make it clear and concise so that you know if this woman you met does not have these core values, then it’s time to move on and keep searching.
The next step is to write down a plan on how you will meet women. Like I said earlier, don't take the bs advice on just waiting. How much longer do you want to wait?! Take action- there are so many different ways to meet women these days!
Go out and get out of your house and go and meet women. If you are complaining about being single, but yet in your leisure time you are playing video games or binge-watching shows on Netflix, then it is time to spend a little less time on those activities and find activities that you will meet women in!
One of the other steps is to improve your sense of style. Just like you're improving your finances, men who are high value men, never stop improving on their fitness and also their apparel. Start dressing a little nicer and take care of your hygiene.
You never know who you will run into. As they say “you never have a second chance to make a first impression.” In the beginning, people don’t judge your personality, they judge your appearance. Stop dressing so shabby and start to dress more proper. Just like some people think that being rich is evil, some people think that dressing nice is a bad thing. That is another myth that is false.
It is funny when men tell me that they want a quality girlfriend who's attractive and looks great in her fashion, but the man dresses like a cartoon character, wearing a loose t-shirt and old baggy jeans and some vans.
It is easy to fix that and completely revamp yourself. Doesn't take much time, but it takes some thinking and planning!
If you do these couple of things and start to plan your dating and love life, you will already see a lot of improvement and start to get more dates with women, so that you can end up finding the right girl to settle down with and find something meaningful!
Life is not meant to be working day in day out, coming home alone to an empty house and not having fulfillment in your love life!
No matter where you are at and what has happened to your past, you CAN find love! You can find the one!
If there are some people in your life who are negative nancies and just complain and have the victim mindset that all women are evil, cut them out of your life or stop hanging out with them as much. Start to hang out with others who are positive and all about a growth mindset!
I want you to have a blessed 2022 and make all of your dreams come true. 
If you still have trouble getting dates with women and finding the right woman for you, you can always send me a message and I'd be happy to help this goal become a reality!
Don’t ever give up, and I'll see you on the winning side! #worksmarternotharder
<![CDATA[How to Get a Girlfriend Online]]>Sat, 11 Dec 2021 10:16:34 GMThttp://mensdatingsandiego.com/blog/how-to-get-a-girlfriend-onlineGetting a girlfriend online is not as hard as you think. However, there has to be strategy before sailing your ship into the sea. You have to have a Plan. As Winston Churchill says, “Failing to Plan, is Planning to Fail.”

Most guys do exactly this, and this is one of the major reasons why guys don’t seem to have much luck in online dating apps. They don't have much of a strategy and also don't have a Plan.

It used to not be like this. The competition online wasn't as bad a few years ago, but since Covid-19 and where technology has been going, the percentage of people online has skyrocketed. And with new algorithms,  the competition for men has become more fierce than ever.

So we have to have a plan. Let’s talk about the do’s and don'ts.

Since attention span nowadays is very short and people are actively swiping left or right, you need to have strong, solid profile pictures. Especially the first picture. There’s a reason people say “you never have a second chance to make a first impression” so much. It’s because unfortunately that’s how our brains are wired!
If your pictures are bad, low quality, selfie in the bathroom kind of pictures, or your style is wack or you can’t really see your face, most likely you will not get many matches and the matches you do get will be not the ones you want to get matched with

If you are bothering to use online dating profiles to find someone, a strong foundation where everything is built in the beginning is key. If not, why are you even bothering? Your profile has to be maximized and optimized to fully fire, and then has to be a/b tested with different types of pictures to find the best results.

 Sometimes the pictures that you think look good are not actually good ones; that is why you need opinions. What matters is what women think of the pictures, not you. After completing this step, you will have more matches with women, and you will have more opportunities to text them. 

Now comes the online messaging. This is the biggest obstacle that I see men have the most difficulty with: Effectively texting them to meet them in real life and go on dates. The goal of online dating is to meet them in real life, not to stay in the chatbox forever. 

So what we want to avoid is having super long conversations in the online chats, and having fun and playful conversations where you eventually ask her out and she gives you her number. Then you can set the date to meet her. 

What happens is most guys will match up with women but then the conversation will fizzle out, girls will un-match with him because the conversation will be a bit boring and mundane, and she’ll try to avoid talking to him anymore. This repeated pattern can make a man bitter, angry and frustrated. 

This is why we have to learn to be more playful when it comes to texting women, so that we can meet up with them and see if there's a connection. If there is,  you will keep going on dates with her and she will eventually become your girlfriend if the pieces fit together right. And if you hit the jackpot, that person could be the person who gives you a relationship that will be passionate and meaningful. 

These are the dos and don'ts of online dating. If you can resonate with this and want to get or find a girlfriend online, then send me a message. We will revamp your dating profile, and learn how to effectively text women to set dates and meet them in real life, so that you can find the perfect woman for you!

“Love is the goal, life is the journey.” - Osho
<![CDATA[Is Pride the #1 Roadblock to Success In Dating?]]>Thu, 11 Nov 2021 12:31:09 GMThttp://mensdatingsandiego.com/blog/is-pride-the-1-roadblock-to-success-in-datingYou're a professional or entrepreneur working 40+ hours every week.

You feel that there's more to life than just working day in day out.

You are sick and tired of waking up alone every single day. You get out of bed and thinking to yourself “this is not what i imagined my life would be like”

You thought that by now the success that you have in your career would just translate over in your love life. You thought it was part of the package.
Inside your head you're saying “I have success in my career. I have the money, I have the resources, but why am I still alone?”
In your head, you're replaying the relationships you had back in high school or college and now thinking, “why haven't I been able to meet and attract the women of my dreams?”

“I thought if I worked on my career that she would instantly just pop out and everything would work out perfectly.”

Meanwhile some of your friends are already in relationships or are getting into one.

You are becoming the lone wolf and hope that a miracle will happen in your life to meet the right one.

You think that if you get help from an expert that it will make you look desperate and weak in front of other people.

You also think you can figure it out by yourself, but you've been on a plateau for years.

You care too much about what other people are going to think of you if you get help in your dating life so you rather suffer than get real results.

So you let ego be your biggest enemy and refuse to ask for help. 

So you rather suffer and not get help and stay the same, and just waste a lot of time and energy, making this a constant cycle of a downward spiral.

My question to you is? 

What are you going to do about it?

Stay the same and feel frustrated as hell or get a Men's Dating Coach that can give you real results without wasting time or feeling frustrated.
<![CDATA[3 Reasons why your Dating Life is Non-Existent as a Professional or Entrepreneur]]>Thu, 11 Nov 2021 12:29:42 GMThttp://mensdatingsandiego.com/blog/3-reasons-why-your-dating-life-is-non-existent-as-a-professional-or-entrepreneur#1: You keep waiting for the perfect moment. 

A lot of guys think that to attract a high quality woman and relationship, they need to be “ready” first.

Once they have the perfect job title, make a certain amount of money, have their dream car or finally put in enough hours in the gym so that they’re jacked.

They say, “I’m working too much, I don't have enough time. Once I have more time then I will be ready to find someone and settle down.” 

The truth is that if you are a professional or entrepreneur, you are always going to be working long hours. And you know that, don’t you? We all know you’re not just going to wake up one day and stop working, right?

There never ends up being a perfect moment, so the love life gets neglected and put on hold till “one day,” which might never happen.

The day that it could happen is the day you decide to make it happen. To talk to that girl you sometimes see in your neighborhood, to take her out on a date, and to be a responsive and decisive man that women want.
#2. You aren’t willing to make a change.

We humans are creatures of habit. We like to stay on the same schedule and don't like to change it too much, unless it’s something we know will be guaranteed fun and low risk.

So guys will end up spending their spare time the same way, for years. After work you go hang out with the boys, playing video games or just Netflix and chilling. You’re tired from working all day, so you don’t want to get out of your comfort zone and make a new habit. 

So your dating life ends up being just another random guy on a dating app some girl overlooks, but yet you hate that you are waking up alone every day. You’re frustrated, you want to build a connection with someone, and you want to do it all without changing or learning a thing about it. 

That’s the definition of Insanity – doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result.

#3. You feel unworthy of being with your dream woman.

Is perfection really what women are looking for?

Have you ever seen an ok looking guy without a bunch of money with a great girl before? You think to yourself – hold on – not rich, not a supermodel, what’s he got that I haven’t?

The truth is that women don't want the perfect guy. They want a guy who is perfectly fine with himself.

So guys will say, “She won’t like me. I’m not funny, I’m not good looking, and I can’t be with her. She’s way out of my league.”

This is a huge lower self-belief that causes men to put off improving this area of their life. If a man thinks they are not good enough to be with the women they want to be with, he will wait till the perfect moment somehow lands in his lap. 

This would be like getting introduced to a woman from a friend of a friend, hoping that you guys will hit it off, instead of being a creator. You could just spark up a conversation with the woman next to you in line at Starbucks. You never know what could happen if you just introduced yourself, instead of letting her walk away and never see her again.

The bottom line is that life is short. Stop waiting for the perfect opportunity and just do it. The moment will never be perfect. If you don't know how to meet and attract your ideal woman, message me and I'll be your Men’s Dating Coach in San Diego, CA.  We will not be waiting for things to be perfect. We will just do, and execute!
<![CDATA[Does Success in Career Mean You Will Have Success in Dating?]]>Thu, 11 Nov 2021 12:23:59 GMThttp://mensdatingsandiego.com/blog/does-success-in-career-mean-you-will-have-success-in-datingYou have been lied to!

A lot of men think that as long as they take care of their career goals, and have success in that area of their life, everything will fall into place. They’ll attract the woman of their dreams and everything will be perfect!
The sad reality is, life just doesn’t work like that.

If that was the case, every successful professional or entrepreneur can easily find a girlfriend or they would be in a perfect relationship with their dream partner, and no one would be struggling in this aspect of their lives.

But that’s far from the truth. Actually, it is quite the opposite.

After college, when most men have entered their career or are running their business, they are not exposed to women the way they used to be.
Remember "back in the day?" There were women everywhere. There were different social circles to be a part of, and meeting people through friends, and friends of friends was easy.

I’m sure you have a couple friends who met a girl in school, or through a good friend, and ended up happily married together. But, that’s a rare case. That’s an exception. And it's an exception that it will be a truly lasting love in their life.

Not everyone is fortunate enough to find someone they really connect with and want to settle down with.

The sad reality is that instead, a lot of men are locked onto their computers working long hours Monday through Friday, without much interaction from women.

And so they keep hearing the same B.S. advice: “Just be confident, just be yourself - and girls will love that!”
But how the hell can he “be himself” if he’s locked away for hours on his computer? Is he really expected to just flip the switch and “just be himself” as soon as he stumbles upon a woman he’s attracted to?
As time progresses, these guys make more money in the bank, have a little more success in their career, and gain a little more weight. But, he still has this belief that somehow he will match with his dream woman on a dating app, or run into her somewhere and his love life will just work out.

You work on all these aspects in your life, yet neglect one of the most vital and important areas of your life.
Your dating and relationship lives!

If you don’t make a change in your dating and relationship life and learn how to meet, attract and keep your ideal women, two possibilities can happen

One, you will be spending your nights alone. Having no one to come home to, kissing you good morning or goodnight, no one to share in your success (and even your failures). Not spending quality time with that special girl on the weekends, and no way to build that dream life or family with someone that makes it all worth it.

Or, the other possibility is that you will just accept mediocrity in this area of your life, and just settle with whoever is there based on desperation and guilt from your family as to why you are still single.

And years later into your marriage with her, when you’re going through a divorce, you take a look at why you ended up together, when it was really for no reason at all.

This is how most men stumble across their partners. I can help you NOT be that guy. Message me if you want to break out of this pattern and have a fulfilling and meaningful love life - with someone you actually value!